I think this is true. Over the past few years I've watched and wondered what the hell's going on that so many men/fathers/boyfriends are so...icky. Then I got to watching Wild Discovery, this animal's mating habits, that one's mating habits...and seeing how the female was very choosy about which male she was going to mate with, it occurred to me. We're just not being choosy enough.
The female zebra has high standards in her prospective mate, and if he doesn't meet those standards, he doesn't get any!
The lioness won't have the lion if he's not the strongest out of the guys, because she wants protection for the cubs, and if he's not giving it, he's out of luck.
Even female birds. The one I was watching, I forget the breed, but she flat got down into his nest and checked that sucker out, trying it on for size before deciding if he was the one for her or not. If the nest didn't have a little blue in it, and it wasn't roomy enough, or it didn't look well made, she just flew off to check out another fella's domicile, and kept doing her inspecting until she was satisfied that this one was the right one.
These animal females are all choosy. Not a single one pulled any of that.. "well.. his feathers are gone, and he doesn't want to build a nest, but his eyes are to die for" stuff. None of that.. "Gosh, he doesn't bathe much, the smell turns me off, but I think I can change him", business, the female birds didn't pick the bad boy birds who were all sprawled out in the pot fields, high on those bitter but oh-so-fun marijuana seeds they'd eaten for lunch. THEY ARE CHOOSY!
Maybe we female humans should pay closer attention to this.
Maybe if we did, we'd not lament our "terrible luck, and lot in life" years later down the road when our fellas turn out to be assholes. Assholeness didn't just happen...it was there all along, we just didn't look closely enough to notice.
What I noticed in these animals, is that there is "No Second Chance". They get one shot to prove themselves, and if they haven't.. it's goodbye buddy. "One shot, screw up mister and I'm out of here!" None of that make up, break up, make up stuff. I don't care how many wild roses the boy bird tries to bring the female, she'll just flog his ass and send him packing!
Let's face it. We got the equipment the fellas want. (well.. most times, anyway)
We can afford to be choosier than what we are. Because if there's one thing males understand, it's sex, and the lack of it. And eventually it will occur to them.. "Damn. I'm gonna have to clean up my act if I want to get some."
Stop overlooking the sweetheart for the badboy. He's out there. He's just more rare. It takes more time to find him. But when we consider the consequences of "settling"... we have to also blame ourselves later when we're up to our eyeballs in debt, despair, when we're stuck a badly built nest with genetically challenged offspring. It's our own faults. Stop blaming the guys, be choosier, ladies!
Posted by juel at August 8, 2004 11:25 AM